How To Create A Woman Who Goes Traveling Alone

By Alice Teacake

This article may contain affiliate / compensated links. For full information, please see my affiliate disclaimer here.

Looking for the perfect recipe to create these wonderful creatures who call themselves ‘solo female travelers’? This is it. Follow the instructions carefully and what you’ll achieve at the end of it all is one seriously beautiful and powerful result. From a drop of anguish, a dash of rebellion, a spoonful of love and a slice of curiosity, let’s get stuck into How To Create A Woman Who Goes Traveling Alone.

Get her addicted to the good stuff

What starts out as a young girl spending her weekly pocket money on chocolate bars and gummy bears turns into a woman splashing her cash on Starbucks coffee, expensive handbags and shoes, the latest chemical to make her look ten years younger and a lot of glasses of the good old vino. What if a woman was shown endless adverts of how young, fit, healthy and fulfilled she would be if she spent her pocket money on adventures instead? Even if she hates spiders and can’t bear to go camping, even if getting herself muddy on a revving motorbike brings tears to her eyes, speeding across the waves on a jetski or throwing herself out of a airplane could just be her thing and give her that pure innocence she had when she got her first dollar. Get a girl addicted to the joys of adventure, to ensure she has no fear in chasing that next hit alone.

Break Her Heart So She Learns To Love Herself

How To Create A Woman Traveling Alone: from learning about feminism to having her heart broken, there are many things a woman can experience that will ultimately, make her the best solo female traveler ever

From the moment we come into this awesome planet, kicking and victoriously fist pumping the air, the soul within us which is rapidly evolving and yearning for knowledge, stimulation and exploration…ultimately needs love. Without love, our dreams have no meaning, our purpose in life cannot be fulfilled and our steps to reaching our true destiny will be a hell of a lot harder. A woman who goes traveling alone learns one crucial point: that love doesn’t always have to come from others. True love can come from many sources but the strongest source of all is within herself. By always seeking love from others, a woman will never unlock her deepest kickass magic. Learn to love yourself, then go and share that awesomeness with the rest of the globe.

Introduce Her To Feminism And What It Really Means

How To Create A Woman Traveling Alone

CC image courtesy of Hey Paul Studios on Flickr

By hearing the word ‘feminism’, some people can get the wrong end of the stick. Visions of furious, penis-hating women, who are bitches from blazing hell, chaining themselves to the streets to exclaim their latest grievance is far from the truth. Feminism is not complicated. It’s an incredibly simple, loving, open-minded and understandable concept. It is simply about addressing these two simple questions: 1) Are men doing what we’re doing? If not, is that fair? and 2) Are men being polite to us? Feminism can be a bit of a scary, misunderstood idea but if you introduce what it really means to a woman, you’ll create a lady who believes in her strengths, skills and power to venture through the world successfully. She’ll believe she can go travelling alone. That she can speak up for her right to throw herself off that cliff, climb up that mountain, surf the seas just like her brothers, fathers, boyfriends and sons do and assertively project herself when she isn’t being treated fairly or given the same opportunities.

Show her the lows so she can try to conquer them

How To Create A Woman Who Goes Traveling Alone

CC photo courtesy of Sundaram Ramaswamy on Flickr

The unbearable heavy weight one can carry in their stomach. The debilitating anxious thoughts one can scream at themselves which no-one else hears. The terror one can feel when having to step out the door and face all of ‘those people’. Mental health is not talked about enough in this world, but guess what, I’m human and you’re human. You’ve had tough times and a woman who goes traveling alone has had those tough times too. To get out of the grey and into the light, many women find that traveling alone is the ultimate shock therapy…and with enough support and gusto, it can work wonders with a mind that wasn’t being kind to itself. No one desires a pile of crap served to them on a plate but by working through it and putting herself out there, a woman traveling alone becomes a whole new force to be reckoned with that is warm, glowing and walking around with a shiny new license plate to see the world.

Rebel Rebel! Let her say ‘No’ to societys’ expectations

Photo courtesy of Karsten Selferlin on Flickr

People have very specific ideas about how women should lead their life. Religious reasons. Evolutionary reasons. ‘What’s best for you’ reasons. Parents, teachers and society are going to tell women that they should go in particular directions and that it’s the best path for them in order to ‘do the right thing’. To create a woman who ends up traveling alone, allow her to say ‘no’ to what others expect of her if she so wishes. Allow her to choose her education, her job, decide if she gets married or not and go where she wishes. She’ll reach the point where she’ll return, having accomplished things these people never imagined and the world will be a much better place for it.

Give her the heart and mind to want to understand others

A woman who wants to understand herself, also needs to understand others. By understanding other peoples’ hopes, dreams, fears and rules of life, she can put herself in their shoes, digest the things she sees and then decide what she hopes, dreams, fears and will do with her life. A woman with a heart and mind to want to understand others, will do well to go traveling alone so she can fully immerse herself in the adventurous process and have time to reflect on her voyage of discovery. A woman needs that time without distractions to formulate and conclude her findings. As a result, she’ll blossom into the best girl she can be.

 Don’t Give Her Everything

Women traveling alone may be searching for that missing piece to their puzzle. They may not know what it looks like, where it fits and exactly how they are going to obtain it but that personal alarm deep in their tummy will be wailing away, signalling to them that an adventure is needed. An adventure  to step out into the open world and fulfil their purpose. So make sure to not give her everything. Don’t give her the best ice cream she’s ever tasted. Don’t give her the most breathtaking view she’s ever witnessed. Don’t open the window to the world all the way, so that she can push it open herself and truly see what’s out there.

What ingredients make a woman who travels alone? Share your thoughts below!
Share The Solo Female Travel Recipe! Pin Me!


2020 Best Solo Female Travel Destinations

Self Esteem

Self Love Exercises

Travel Blog

How to create your own travel blog

About Alice Teacake

I'm a feminist British kickass solo female traveller who believes in women facing their fears, pushing their boundaries and reaching their full potential through solo adventure travel! I have been featured in Nat Geo Traveller UK, Lonely Planet, the Daily Mail and Buzzfeed and spoken about solo female travel safety on BBC One, whilst working with a bunch of awesome brands. Follow me for travel advice and inspiration, so you can go forth and challenge yourself to reach your own personal goals!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

How To Create A Woman Who Goes Traveling Alone

  • Im a proud solo female traveller. My friends and family cant afford to travel so a few years ago I realized I either go by myself or stay at home waiting for them to get enough money.

    Im not waiting for anyone because the world is waiting for me.

  • Dear Alice,

    I am 18 years old and just got back from a trip to Nepal where I went with a group. I wanted to travel alone but was too afraid to go by myself because of the fears of being a solo woman traveler. Coming back to the States (home for me for the time being and last 18 years), I realize now more than ever that if I want to live life to the fullest, I HAVE to get out into the world and see it FOR MYSELF, away from the pressure of a group. I needed this, I needed your blog and your inspiration and your examples of the beauty of traveling through this world alone as a woman. Thank you for setting me on my path and for inspiring me to take ownership of my goals. So much love for you and for this blog which I just recently found (and is my first time following a blog!). I look forward to following along with your adventures and creating some of my own!!!