How To Create A Woman Who Goes Traveling Alone

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Looking for the perfect recipe to create these wonderful creatures who call themselves ‘solo female travelers’? This is it. Follow the instructions carefully and what you’ll achieve at the end of it all is one seriously beautiful and powerful result. From a drop of anguish, a dash of rebellion, a spoonful of love and a slice of curiosity, let’s get stuck into How To Create A Woman Who Goes Traveling Alone.

Get her addicted to the good stuff

How To Create A Woman Traveling Alone: from learning about feminism to having her heart broken, there are many things a woman can experience that will ultimately, make her the best solo female traveler ever

What starts out as a young girl spending her weekly pocket money on chocolate bars and gummy bears turns into a woman splashing her cash on Starbucks coffee, expensive handbags and shoes, the latest chemical to make her look ten years younger and a lot of glasses of the good old vino. What if a woman was shown endless adverts of how young, fit, healthy and fulfilled she would be if she spent her pocket money on adventures instead? Even if she hates spiders and can’t bear to go camping, even if getting herself muddy on a revving motorbike brings tears to her eyes, speeding across the waves on a jetski or throwing herself out of a airplane could just be her thing and give her that pure innocence she had when she got her first dollar. Get a girl addicted to the joys of adventure, to ensure she has no fear in chasing that next hit alone.

Break Her Heart So She Learns To Love Herself

How To Create A Woman Traveling Alone: from learning about feminism to having her heart broken, there are many things a woman can experience that will ultimately, make her the best solo female traveler ever

From the moment we come into this awesome planet, kicking and victoriously fist pumping the air, the soul within us which is rapidly evolving and yearning for knowledge, stimulation and exploration…ultimately needs love. Without love, our dreams have no meaning, our purpose in life cannot be fulfilled and our steps to reaching our true destiny will be a hell of a lot harder. A woman who goes traveling alone learns one crucial point: that love doesn’t always have to come from others. True love can come from many sources but the strongest source of all is within herself. By always seeking love from others, a woman will never unlock her deepest kickass magic. Learn to love yourself, then go and share that awesomeness with the rest of the globe.

Introduce Her To Feminism And What It Really Means

How To Create A Woman Traveling Alone: from learning about feminism to having her heart broken, there are many things a woman can experience that will ultimately, make her the best solo female traveler ever

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By hearing the word ‘feminism’, some people can get the wrong end of the stick. Visions of furious, penis-hating women, who are bitches from blazing hell, chaining themselves to the streets to exclaim their latest grievance is far from the truth. Feminism is not complicated. It’s an incredibly simple, loving, open-minded and understandable concept. It is simply about addressing these two simple questions: 1) Are men doing what we’re doing? If not, is that fair? and 2) Are men being polite to us? Feminism can be a bit of a scary, misunderstood idea but if you introduce what it really means to a woman, you’ll create a lady who believes in her strengths, skills and power to venture through the world successfully. She’ll believe she can go travelling alone. That she can speak up for her right to throw herself off that cliff, climb up that mountain, surf the seas just like her brothers, fathers, boyfriends and sons do and assertively project herself when she isn’t being treated fairly or given the same opportunities.

Show her the lows so she can try to conquer them

How To Create A Woman Traveling Alone: from learning about feminism to having her heart broken, there are many things a woman can experience that will ultimately, make her the best solo female traveler ever

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The unbearable heavy weight one can carry in their stomach. The debilitating anxious thoughts one can scream at themselves which no-one else hears. The terror one can feel when having to step out the door and face all of ‘those people’. Mental health is not talked about enough in this world, but guess what, I’m human and you’re human. You’ve had tough times and a woman who goes traveling alone has had those tough times too. To get out of the grey and into the light, many women find that traveling alone is the ultimate shock therapy…and with enough support and gusto, it can work wonders with a mind that wasn’t being kind to itself. No one desires a pile of crap served to them on a plate but by working through it and putting herself out there, a woman traveling alone becomes a whole new force to be reckoned with that is warm, glowing and walking around with a shiny new license plate to see the world.

Rebel Rebel! Let her say ‘No’ to societys’ expectations

How To Create A Woman Traveling Alone: from learning about feminism to having her heart broken, there are many things a woman can experience that will ultimately, make her the best solo female traveler ever

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People have very specific ideas about how women should lead their life. Religious reasons. Evolutionary reasons. ‘What’s best for you’ reasons. Parents, teachers and society are going to tell women that they should go in particular directions and that it’s the best path for them in order to ‘do the right thing’. To create a woman who ends up traveling alone, allow her to say ‘no’ to what others expect of her if she so wishes. Allow her to choose her education, her job, decide if she gets married or not and go where she wishes. She’ll reach the point where she’ll return, having accomplished things these people never imagined and the world will be a much better place for it.

Give her the heart and mind to want to understand others

How To Create A Woman Traveling Alone: from learning about feminism to having her heart broken, there are many things a woman can experience that will ultimately, make her the best solo female traveler ever

A woman who wants to understand herself, also needs to understand others. By understanding other peoples’ hopes, dreams, fears and rules of life, she can put herself in their shoes, digest the things she sees and then decide what she hopes, dreams, fears and will do with her life. A woman with a heart and mind to want to understand others, will do well to go traveling alone so she can fully immerse herself in the adventurous process and have time to reflect on her voyage of discovery. A woman needs that time without distractions to formulate and conclude her findings. As a result, she’ll blossom into the best girl she can be.

 Don’t Give Her Everything

How To Create A Woman Traveling Alone: from learning about feminism to having her heart broken, there are many things a woman can experience that will ultimately, make her the best solo female traveler ever

Women traveling alone may be searching for that missing piece to their puzzle. They may not know what it looks like, where it fits and exactly how they are going to obtain it but that personal alarm deep in their tummy will be wailing away, signalling to them that an adventure is needed. An adventure  to step out into the open world and fulfil their purpose. So make sure to not give her everything. Don’t give her the best ice cream she’s ever tasted. Don’t give her the most breathtaking view she’s ever witnessed. Don’t open the window to the world all the way, so that she can push it open herself and truly see what’s out there.

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About Alice Teacake

I'm a kickass girl who believes in women facing their fears and pushing their boundaries, to reach their full potential through solo adventure travel! Follow me for travel advice and inspiration, so you can go forth and challenge yourself to reach your own personal goals!

46 replies
  1. Jossus Travelpics
    Jossus Travelpics says:

    Im a proud solo female traveller. My friends and family cant afford to travel so a few years ago I realized I either go by myself or stay at home waiting for them to get enough money.

    Im not waiting for anyone because the world is waiting for me.

  2. Nora Hyman
    Nora Hyman says:

    Dear Alice,

    I am 18 years old and just got back from a trip to Nepal where I went with a group. I wanted to travel alone but was too afraid to go by myself because of the fears of being a solo woman traveler. Coming back to the States (home for me for the time being and last 18 years), I realize now more than ever that if I want to live life to the fullest, I HAVE to get out into the world and see it FOR MYSELF, away from the pressure of a group. I needed this, I needed your blog and your inspiration and your examples of the beauty of traveling through this world alone as a woman. Thank you for setting me on my path and for inspiring me to take ownership of my goals. So much love for you and for this blog which I just recently found (and is my first time following a blog!). I look forward to following along with your adventures and creating some of my own!!!

  3. Ashleigh @ Paws and a Passport
    Ashleigh @ Paws and a Passport says:

    Wow, I definitely am guilty of the first one in the past. I had to pay off a bit of credit card debt from bad spending before I could start saving to travel. I wish I would have had the traveling mindset to begin with. It was something I always wanted to do but I would dismiss it as impossible. Luckily I gained to confidence to realize it was absolutely possible to travel the world however I wanted! Thanks for this wonderful, inspiring post.

  4. Travelog with Jem
    Travelog with Jem says:

    Travelling alone as a woman is far more liberating than anyone thinks. Great thoughts are being exposed here. I have always admired adventurous women who travel on their own. I am not quite there yet but slowly, I will be.

  5. Cristina Luisa
    Cristina Luisa says:

    I love this post, Alice! I’ve written previously on what it takes to travel alone as a woman, and these facets coincide very well with that. The thing is, traveling alone isn’t for everyone- neither man nor woman. Still, if only parents raised their girls to be strong, independent women, many more females would embrace the liberating and powerful experience of solo travel. Nonetheless, no matter how or where we’ve grown up, we can all teach ourselves to be that woman capable of anything. We can create ourselves with each of these ingredients.

  6. Kimberly Erin
    Kimberly Erin says:

    I absolutely love this post…. its perfect! I think everyone gets their heart broken so they can truley learn to love themselves.. and travel is such a good teacher. I also really agree that travel teaches what feminism really is… great post. i love this.

  7. Rand Blimes
    Rand Blimes says:

    Great post. As a father who thinks a lot about how to raise independent, strong daughters who love to travel I really appreciate getting your point of view. I will be having my daughters read this and we will discuss it over dinner tomorrow night. Thanks!

  8. Vanessa
    Vanessa says:

    This is wonderful. There is still a stigma or a group of stereotypes about women who travel alone (they’re anti-social, they’re running away from something) but this proves just the opposite – it’s something that’s rooted in strength.

  9. Laura
    Laura says:

    For me it was a combination of wanting to be my own person and wanting to know what else was out there that got me to travel the world alone. If you don’t know how to rely on yourself, you won’t get very far.

  10. Mar
    Mar says:

    Confidence is all you need. If you believe you can do it then you will. Just a few trial and errors to see that there is nothing that can stop you and that you are resourcefull enough to get out of any situation and you have what it takes to take off

  11. Alyssa Oh
    Alyssa Oh says:

    I can relate to so much of this article, especially the bit about breaking her heart so she’ll learn how to love herself. My own travels have taught me so much about who I am and how deep the well of courage inside me runs… so much deeper than the society I grew up in would have it! I don’t think my parents raised me to be a traveller, but they did raise me to be curious and compassionate and my own imagination took care of the rest. I am so glad to know there are other women out there like me who are going after all that life has to offer with gusto! Well done.

  12. Brianne Miers
    Brianne Miers says:

    This is so beautiful and important, Alice. I see a lot of these attributes in myself of course – I don’t think my parents’ set out to raise a solo female traveler, but they definitely got one! They instilled a sense of curiosity and adventure from a young age, and always valued experiences over material possessions. And I love your definition of feminism. I think in many countries I’ve been to – like India, for example – sure, women are increasingly becoming educated and holding professional positions of power. However, they also are still holding down the lion’s share of domestic duties. It’s not quite at the point yet where men are comfortable doing what women are doing (And, we still have a ways to go in the US as well).

  13. Lesley
    Lesley says:

    I agree with almost all of these except “Break Her Heart So She Learns To Love Herself”. I love traveling on my own and exploring new countries and cultures. I think I was born with a passion for travel and took my first solo flight when I was 8 years old (not child abuse lol; my mom walked me on to the plane and a flight attendant walked me to family on the other side), but it was never because someone broke my heart. I love “Get her addicted to the good stuff” though, especially since I started so young.

  14. Paula McInerney
    Paula McInerney says:

    Interesting read. Does the term feminism even exist anymore, or I we at the stage where we know that women can do anything that they set their mind to? Maybe in some cultures, female empowerment is still a new area to be explored, but I doubt whether it is in western societies. I think your article can be applied to solo male travellers just as much as it can to solo female travellers.

    • Alice teacake
      Alice teacake says:

      I think feminism still needs to be tooted about in western societies. From expectations of women to what they’re capable of, I still see resistence and more so as I travel in other parts of the world. This article can definitely be applied to men! Truly hoping everyone can take a little something from it that will motivate them to make awesome stuff happen for themselves this January :)

  15. mark
    mark says:

    It sounds like a progressive journey that your on. We wish you all the best in your travels and your life. In the end we all need to be happy and its not about what others think is right or wrong its about what you think

  16. Jocelyn
    Jocelyn says:

    I think courage and confidence help a lot. I love to travel, but am shy and easily turned around with directions. Having a smart phone makes me feel a lot better about traveling alone, though, since I always have a map and a book along with me. With those, and some chocolate, I’m almost invincible ;)

  17. Bell | Wanderlust Marriage
    Bell | Wanderlust Marriage says:

    Great post! I agree that traveling solo can be like therapy. I backpacked Europe in my early 20s by myself after college and a broken heart. On that trip I learnt I could get around in the world all own my own! And survive being lost in a city where I didn’t speak the language. Also, on that trip, I met my husband of 11 years. It is amazing what pushing yourself can lead to!

    Happy travels everyone!

  18. Anda
    Anda says:

    Yea, quite a good recipe for creating an independent woman. I love your post. It’s finally our time, as women, to show the world what we are capable of.

  19. Natasha
    Natasha says:

    I love this post and especially the first point. Getting addicted to the good stuff aka adventures and experiences! So many people are in love with fancy handbags and expensive cosmetics, but that may not make them as happy as sharing experiences with others and with the world.

    • Alice teacake
      Alice teacake says:

      Thank you so much for reading it, loving it and digging it! Hoping to spread some encouragement and empowerment across the airwaves with this one and for passionate and amazing guys like you, I hope it strikes a chord too <3

  20. Nikita
    Nikita says:

    Loved this! Especially the conclusion. It’s amazing how easy it is to forget how important that longing is.

    Essentially, women who travel just have all the right ingredients. ;)


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